Sometimes I've wonder if we've got things backwards. Many of us, especially me, focus so intensely on our work and day-to-day activities, that we wind up offloading tasks we don’t have time to handle. Unfortunately, I find myself offloading the care of my beautiful, awesome daughter to a daycare center. But when I have moments like the once captured in this picture, they’re magical. And when I look back on this picture, it makes me think that maybe that I should flip it all around. What if I could offload my current day-to-days, and take on being with my daughter full time? What if I could pawn off everything from household chores to even making money! I like the sound of that, so that’s what I’ve made my goal in life – to build systems, processes and support networks that support my lifestyle for me, so that I don’t have to! Someday soon all areas of my life will be filled with the magic that was captured in this picture that was taken by my good friend and talented photographer, Kris Lau. Every day, I feel myself getting closer to that goal, and I feel those intentions rushing towards me. It’s my life, and for once I’m in the driver’s seat! Woo hoo!! Ajay Mirwani was awarded America's Brightest Speaking Star in 2007. He speaks to colleges about leadership and transitioning into the real world, as well businesses about internet marketing strategies and search optimization. To contact Ajay, visit http://www.ajayspeaks.com
When I'm not speaking to college students about transitioning to the real world, or helping small business with Internet Marketing, or working full time at Microsoft, I'm also running a real estate business (see my program on "The Art of Delegating") :) Today, I got a chance to apply the lesson I learned from T. Harv Eckers book, "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind" about focusing on the solution, and not the problem. When we hit a problem, it's easy for us to dwell on it and then act out on it, but where does that get you? I've learned it's much better to save time and energy (and more) by focusing on the solution to the problem, not the problem itself! I know it's very difficult to focus on the solution when emotions are high, but it will completely change the outcome of the situation for the better! In my case today, I had a disgruntled tenant who just couldn't be satisfied no matter what we tried. Not only that but my property manager broke "the magical barrier" by forwarding one of my e-mails with my name and contact info directly to her! So now this tenant knows who I am, how to get hold of me, and you better believe she's coming after me. My first instinct was to call the property manager and lay into him real good. But knowing what I know, I stopped, stepped back, and said "How do I solve this particular problem?" With that change of thinking, instantly whole situation changed. I immediately had a thought, that instead of calling the property manager, I'd call my real estate mentor. I figured he's been through this situation dozens of times. Sure enough, in a few minutes he helped me craft a solution that made this a win win for every body!So before you take the negative route (which is usually the first one you'll see when faced with a problem), step back and watch yourself, look at yourself being angry. Be the witness to it all. Then ask: What is the solution to this problem? What would fix this? Put those thoughts in your head as quickly as you can, and stressful situations will quickly turn into a resolved situations!Ajay Mirwani is a Professional Speaker, Author, and Technologist that speaks to colleges about leadership and transitioning into the real world, as well businesses about internet marketing strategies and search optimization. To book Ajay for one of your events, please call (415) 839-9710 or visit http://www.ajayspeaks.com
Sometimes I've wonder if we've got things backwards. Many of us, especially me, focus so intensely on our work and day-to-day activities, that we wind up offloading tasks we don’t have time to handle. Unfortunately, I find myself offloading the care of my beautiful, awesome daughter to a daycare center. But when I have moments like the once captured in this picture, they’re magical. And when I look back on this picture, it makes me think that maybe that I should flip it all around. What if I could offload my current day-to-days, and take on being with my daughter full time? What if I could pawn off everything from household chores to even making money! I like the sound of that, so that’s what I’ve made my goal in life – to build systems, processes and support networks that support my lifestyle for me, so that I don’t have to! Someday soon all areas of my life will be filled with the magic that was captured in this picture that was taken by my good friend and talented photographer, Kris Lau. Every day, I feel myself getting closer to that goal, and I feel those intentions rushing towards me. It’s my life, and for once I’m in the driver’s seat! Woo hoo!! 
